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Byrn
20th November 2003, 23:58
So, My marriage of of nearly five years was ended in May of 2003. I believe the final date was May 12. I was married on May 16 of 1998.

We seperated on my 25th Birthday, August 23 2002. Well I should say, she left me. A marriage only works when both parties want it to. She didn't want to work through our problems. At the time I didn't know everything that was wrong.

She didn't just leave me, my son's birthday is on August 30th. She didn't see him for nearly 2 months after she left. I believe she only fights on custody to lessen the amout of child support she has to pay, and to aggrivate me. She was a neglectful wife and mother.

Our last year of marriage, we had moved in with my parents for financial reasons. Mainly she couldn't hold a job and I was the only source of income. This obviously created more stress. I was (and still am) working second shift. She could have spent time with me in the mornings, but rarely got up before 10. So I got up with our son, and took care of him until I left for work.

I didn't know this until after she left. She would lay on the couch for most of the day. When my Father came home around 5 or 6 my son ,more often than not, had a dirty diaper. My father would change him. But it became so regular, he started asking my ex to change him. She would let him sit in the dirty diaper for another half hour.

This is just one of many things about her that slowly developed. I had to do my own laundry, even though she was home all day and didn't have anything else to do. My Mom did most of the house work.

The worst thing I didn't find out until after the divorce. Two weeks before she left, she attended her Family reunion. She didn't come home all weekend. I spoke to her several times and asked her to come home. Apparently she had slept with one of her cousins. The proof is an e-mail she sent to her cousin. I found in in my sent items in outlook. I guess she thought it was deleted. She doesn't know I know. IT's my ace up my sleeve. IF she ever sues for full custody I'll use it.

This was the worst part of my marriage. There were fun times, trips we had taken, her pregnacy and some of the times just spent together. But after 2 years of marriage, she turned into another person. The birth of my son postponed the splitup. But I wouldn't trade him for anything.

Six months have gone since the divorce. She's getting married on Saturday. She's pregnant. Counting her cousin, this is the fourth guy she's been with since she left me. I know because she's told me. How can someone change that much so quickly? I have yet to go on one date.

Byrn
20th September 2004, 21:00
Well it's been nearly a year since I meandered into these parts. I'm in a much better place now. I've done some soul searching and have found out I'm a better person thatn I thought I was. I've spent most of my life second guessing myself, thinking I wasn't as good as other people. Which would explain why I settled for a psycho.

My son is now four. He can count to 10 and sing some of the alphabet. He recognizes words, but still can't read. He knows his shapes and colors very well. I get to spend about 7 hours a day with him. He's about to start pre-school.

I've been through a lot in the past 15 years. When I was 13 two of my uncles died within three weeks of each other. The fallout from that kind oc shaped the next 10 years. I was still recovering from that, when I met my Ex.

Well, i'll pick up on this later. Time for me to go home

Byrn
21st September 2004, 22:37
Why was I going on about the past.....

Anyway, Life is Good. Other than my sex life, everything lately has been going my way. My Job is cool, I spend most of the day surfing the web. The last two hours are always slow, so that's when I've been getting all of my reading done. I've been reading again. That's something I didn't get to do when I was married. My Ex thought that me reading meant I was ignoring her. She would do everything in her power to distract me, well not everything :rolleyes:. When Melissa left, I was 245lbs. My weight at my last doctor's appointment was 183lbs. I'm in the best shape of my adult life. The last time I weighed 183 was when I was 16. I keep putting off calling child services and checking on what can be done about my ex. She hasn't paid child support in 6 months. I've yet to recieve back to back payments. She keeps finding loop holes. She didn;t have to pay when she was pregnant, docotr's orders kept her from working. Now she's says she's started going to college. I'm sure that will be another loophole. I given up on her helping raise my son. She just visits every other weekend.

Well to sum up: I'm in the best shape of my life, my job is cool, my son is the coolest kid ever and I am in a good place mentaly and emotionaly.